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After almost 19 years we are calling it quits
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lamrith
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Location: Tacoma/Puyallup Joined: Tue May 8, 2012 Posts: 4340
Real Name: Larry
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Massivedesign wrote: That sucks Mash..It sounds like you are doing it right though. Doing this as a business transaction, and the only thing that really matters is the kids. House doesn't matter, retirement doesn't matter. Your job since those kids were born were to be their father. Make sure they are okay in all of this. Don't fight in front of them, don't argue or discuss the details in front of them. My parents divorced when I was 6. I never saw them fight, argue or be mean, but later on they told me they were all of that, just never in front of us kids.
^^^ My Parents divorced when I was 16, they kept the divorce quiet until it was pretty much done. I had seen them bicker about little things prior and unrelated to the divorce itself, but that was it. I for one was glad to know they were each happier apart, even back then as a kid. I am only finding out now that is was actually pretty bad on the backside and not coming up until now when they were forced to be in the same place for my kids graduation party. Again good on you Mash, keep it nice and cordual and make sure everything is in writing and done. Especially custody things, I have seen a few friends go thru hell with custody issues down the road.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 7:52 am |
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chuckisduck
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Location: Lynnwood Joined: Sat Nov 28, 2020 Posts: 789
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Sorry but is probably for the best. Only advice is keep telling your kids they are loved and not the issue. See it bad with my sister's kids.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 1:40 pm |
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crosse
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Location: Eastside/Seattle Joined: Sun Feb 16, 2014 Posts: 803
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I got out of a relationship of almost 10 years last year. Dating in this Era over 35 is TOUGH. Do not recommend lol.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 2:01 pm |
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farfrompar28
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Location: SHELTON Joined: Tue Mar 29, 2011 Posts: 4427
Real Name: Jeff
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crosse wrote: I got out of a relationship of almost 10 years last year. Dating in this Era over 35 is TOUGH. Do not recommend lol. Good thing most of the women in his field of work are looking for a sugardaddy. Bad thing pickings aren’t so great…
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 2:03 pm |
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survivor
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Location: Kent Joined: Wed Mar 13, 2013 Posts: 1659
Real Name: Andy
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crosse wrote: I got out of a relationship of almost 10 years last year. Dating in this Era over 35 is TOUGH. Do not recommend lol. MGTOW Sad to hear when couples break up. I’ve got no better advice than any previous post. Just hang in there. You will be just fine. .
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 2:14 pm |
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Pvanderzee
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Location: Bow Joined: Tue Apr 2, 2013 Posts: 2688
Real Name: Phill
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crosse wrote: Dating in this Era over 35 is TOUGH. Do not recommend lol. FIFY. I'm 29 in December. Fuck if I want to get involved with women my age in this era. Last thing I need is to be 'Me Too'd by some lefty college chick or have my truck smashed by a Skagit Valley hillbilly chick that hasn't been wifed up already (you know, on account of the crazy). My guns won't ever leave me hanging, and at least my truck gives me error codes when it breaks instead of just saying "nothing. I'm fine."
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 2:22 pm |
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crosse
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Location: Eastside/Seattle Joined: Sun Feb 16, 2014 Posts: 803
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Pvanderzee wrote: crosse wrote: Dating in this Era over 35 is TOUGH. Do not recommend lol. FIFY. I'm 29 in December. Fuck if I want to get involved with women my age in this era. Last thing I need is to be 'Me Too'd by some lefty college chick or have my truck smashed by a Skagit Valley hillbilly chick that hasn't been wifed up already (you know, on account of the crazy). My guns won't ever leave me hanging, and at least my truck gives me error codes when it breaks instead of just saying "nothing. I'm fine." Tech plus extreme California transplants has made this place a wasteland for mutants and r tards. But on the positive side you're young enough to date someone who maybe hasn't been brainwashed yet and can hear logic. I guess I could too. I just feel weird Im almost the same age as some of their dads.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 2:36 pm |
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dreadi
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Location: Tacoma, Washington Joined: Fri Nov 21, 2014 Posts: 8351
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 2:42 pm |
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jukk0u
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Location: Lynnwood and at large Joined: Wed May 1, 2013 Posts: 21260
Real Name: Vick Lagina
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FWIW: I would NEVER go into the process without a lawyer. No one has to know you've sought advice and the cavalry will be ready and up to speed if/when an "amicable split" gets emotional.
One enters into the divorce process for self interest and that self-interest should also guide the separation. Divorce is antagonistic. It's a recreation of two individual interests. Emotion and self-interest can lead to acrimony despite the best intentions and mutual promises of fair play and concession.
The interest of the kids should be paramount, but that intention can and often times is used against you. Your well being is in the better interest of the kids, too.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 2:44 pm |
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StatlerandWaldorf
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Location: Olympia, WA Joined: Tue Jun 14, 2011 Posts: 3836
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Sorry to hear this Mash, chin up, we're here for you. Except I'm not sure about helping you move. Just kidding.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 3:37 pm |
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movingviolation
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Location: Bonney Lake Joined: Fri Oct 21, 2011 Posts: 3294
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Massivedesign wrote: That sucks Mash..It sounds like you are doing it right though. Doing this as a business transaction, and the only thing that really matters is the kids. House doesn't matter, retirement doesn't matter. Your job since those kids were born were to be their father. Make sure they are okay in all of this. Don't fight in front of them, don't argue or discuss the details in front of them. My parents divorced when I was 6. I never saw them fight, argue or be mean, but later on they told me they were all of that, just never in front of us kids.
Don't forget to take care of yourself too. Depression can come in many forms. Chin up and use your people to help you out if you need it. this. this right here.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 6:35 pm |
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mash man
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Location: Airway heights Joined: Sun Mar 20, 2011 Posts: 12246
Real Name: Michael
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StatlerandWaldorf wrote: Sorry to hear this Mash, chin up, we're here for you. Except I'm not sure about helping you move. Just kidding. but we had such a fun time 8 years ago lol. also i am keeping the house so there is that.
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toys in the toybox
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Location: Tenino Joined: Fri Apr 15, 2011 Posts: 4396
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HUH !!! what, no way!!! no comprende......
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Wed Jul 28, 2021 7:49 pm |
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RENCORP
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Location: East of Japan, not by much. Joined: Fri Jun 3, 2011 Posts: 12990
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Just go catch some fresh beaver as soon as the ink is dry on the paperwork.
Overnight only, at her place.
May not solve all your problems, but it will be fun.
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Caveman Jim
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Location: In my Cave near the Cloquallum Joined: Thu Sep 26, 2013 Posts: 7788
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survivor wrote: crosse wrote: I got out of a relationship of almost 10 years last year. Dating in this Era over 35 is TOUGH. Do not recommend lol. MGTOW Sad to hear when couples break up. I’ve got no better advice than any previous post. Just hang in there. You will be just fine. . HUHHH…
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