How does your significant other handle you going out and "doing fun things".
So. Some of you know that yesterday I received some shitty news. A couple days ago, my buddy and I planned a kayaking day. For today. We were to leave at 0600 and be back at the boat ramp around 0930-1000. Well with my head in deep thought about a lot of shit going on in my life, my buddy and I stayed out till 1100, I was home by 1150. I just needed some guy time. Some time talking with a fellow vet, my anger, my frustration with some shit. And it was helpful to be able to do so, and spend an awesome morning fishing and kayaking a local lake. At 1024 local time, my "better half" calls me and starts bitching up one side and down the other cause "your not fucking home yet and your kid wants to see you!"... then hangs up on me.
We beline back to the boat ramp, I think it's like 2 and some change mileage wise... I walk in the door at home at 1152.... and the fighting hasn't stopped yet. Told about how inconsiderate of a person I am, how all I ever think about is myself, how I shouldn't have said 0930 if I didn't mean it. How I'm a problem, and I should just leave if I don't care bout other her and what she wants.
Basically, I've been made to feel like I should sell anything that I do that's "fun", guns, reloading, ham radio, kayak, fishing. Because "I'm gone too much". And I spend too much on my hobbies(yet I haven't bought a reloading component in like 5 months).
I'm suppose to basically go to work and come straight home... fuck, me saying I want to put in for a couple days off so I can go spend them in the woods for fucking archery season is a problem.... because "what happens if something happens while your gone mike? What happens if Landon gets hurt and is dying in the hospital?!"
I'm I the only person who has to deal with this crap? Or is this a pretty normal fucking thing?
Sounds like she has anxiety, and when you leave she just gets over stressed because she's alone. When both of you arnt mad talk to her about it. Ask her don't start with I think this is how you feel...
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Sun Aug 20, 2017 7:38 am
Rix86
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This Neanderthal DNA thing is such a crock. Ever hear how 90+% of our DNA is in common with chimps? Bunch of chimp fuckers. Logic ... why folks can't seem to use it.
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Sun Aug 20, 2017 8:33 am
Pablo
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This Neanderthal DNA thing is such a crock. Ever hear how 90+% of our DNA is in common with chimps? Bunch of chimp fuckers. Logic ... why folks can't seem to use it.
So there is more to us than just nucleobases arranged in a certain order?
Shit. I just wasted $100!
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Sun Aug 20, 2017 8:43 am
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SC next time instead of saying you'll be back at 10 am say 2 pm, and when you show up at noon you'll be golden. Dear, I know I said 2 pm but I missed you and came home early.
What the fuck you mean your gunna be gone all day?!?!
Nope. They are currently in the bench vice
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Sun Aug 20, 2017 9:19 am
Soldier_Citizen
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I'm suppose to basically go to work and come straight home... fuck, me saying I want to put in for a couple days off so I can go spend them in the woods for fucking archery season is a problem.... because "what happens if something happens while your gone mike? What happens if Landon gets hurt and is dying in the hospital?!"
It sounds like she thinks you are not putting in enough time with your child. Have you thought about taking him out for an archery lesson? Two birds, one stone...
Oh him and I do all kinds a stuff together. He's got a trainer now that we "hunt" wabbits with(not of the bows that shoot suction cups, so even when he manages to hit one of the little cotton tails running round our place, it doesn't hurt them, and we both go shoot the archery bag. He likes helping me reload(his favorite part is pulling the lever). He's in my hip pocket all the time.
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Sun Aug 20, 2017 9:23 am
MadPick
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This Neanderthal DNA thing is such a crock. Ever hear how 90+% of our DNA is in common with chimps? Bunch of chimp fuckers. Logic ... why folks can't seem to use it.
Yes . . . but . . . I do think you need to set reasonable boundaries. Otherwise you'll "wake up" in 10 years and say "FUCK THIS, I'M WASTING MY LIFE" and you'll be pissed.
You need your hobbies, you need some bro time, you need some me time, you need to be able to relax. It's up to you to figure out how much is the right amount (can't ignore her ALL the time, right?), and maybe find some compromises. For example, with your recent situation maybe you could have called her when you knew you were going to be late to let her know. And if the two of you didn't have plans, she should have said, "OK honey, thanks for letting me know, have a good time out there."
I think you need to INSIST on a certain amount of this.
This is true... last time I did that shit though it was "oh so you know your gunna be late and you didn't plan for this?!?!?!
2 weekends about we went fishing too... I was home 20 minutes later than I was suppose to be, and I sent a text saying, hey I'm gunna be a little late... that shit was a fight too.
I probably should have called, I also didn't know what time it was till she called, phone was in a waterproof compartment and I wasn't looking every sixty seconds. But I also think, subconsciously, I knew I was already fucked.
Youch...yeah that's not really reasonable. Are you late every time you go out with the boys? If so, maybe she's pissed at the pattern and next time add an extra hour to your ETA or set an alarm on your phone to remind you when it's time to pack up.
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Generally no. I'm new to the kayak thing and learning how long it takes to do everything load up and such plus my speeds. So I'm learning all of it.
And to answer your previous post too. No I generally don't get mad at her if she's an hour or so late if she's doing stuff with the girls... I did one time when she was 5 hours late and we were suppose to go do stuff with my dad that day. Now if she runs to the store real quick to get one thing, and an hour later she isn't home... I'll check in to make sure she's ok... generally her response is something to effect of "yea sorry ran to wilco to get horse grain and treats for hunny bunny, just a few minutes down the road".(honey bunny is a horse not a bunny).
I try to let her do her own thing so when I want to do my own thing I can.
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Sun Aug 20, 2017 9:31 am
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This Neanderthal DNA thing is such a crock. Ever hear how 90+% of our DNA is in common with chimps? Bunch of chimp fuckers. Logic ... why folks can't seem to use it.
All organisms with eukaryotic cells share genes but that in no way implies interbreeding. Why are Neanderthal genes now free of such constraint? Convergent evolution is well known even at a genetic level but, no, Neanderthals get a pass? Sounds like pseudo-science based 'racism'.
Me trying to figure out what you're saying:
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Blaming 'BIG TOBACCO' for putting retail stores that sell cigarettes near schools. And 'profiling' their customers in inner cities. Many if not most of these local mini stores are owned by Asian immigrants, not 'BIG TOBACCO'. And the reason they sell malt liquor and cigarettes is because they would go out of business if they didn't.
Try making a living with a kale and tofu shop featuring imported Italian sparkling water and premium Champagne in the hood.
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The offer on a House we loved was rejected, FUCKKKKKKK
Oh well tossed out another offer a few hours ago....................I'm gonna go ahead and guess it will be kicked back as well, despite what these Locusts expect I WILL NOT OFFER ANOTHER 20K ON TOP OF THEIR ASKING PRICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Blaming 'BIG TOBACCO' for putting retail stores that sell cigarettes near schools. And 'profiling' their customers in inner cities. Many if not most of these local mini stores are owned by Asian immigrants, not 'BIG TOBACCO'. And the reason they sell malt liquor and cigarettes is because they would go out of business if they didn't.
Try making a living with a kale and tofu shop featuring imported Italian sparkling water and premium Champagne in the hood.
These "big tobacco" ads look like exactly that -- big tobacco. The tobacco companies can't advertise on TV, yet here's this ad that prominently features a whole bunch of cigarette brand logos over and over and over again. The industry literally can't buy airtime like that unless they run it as an anti campaign. Just one of these 30-second spots exposes consumers to more tobacco advertising on TV than they've had in years. Kind of genius when you think about it.
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Anyone else on here have CRTV? They did an "upgrade" on Monday and now I can't watch on PS4 since they switched to flash. Irritating to say the least. I downloaded the app yesterday and I hasn't worked the entire time. Called customer service and the lady told me to reset my password , reset my phone and install/uninstall the app. Still fucked up. Gotta love paying for shit I can't watch.
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